"Jealousy is the fear of comparison" - Max Frisch
There
have been plenty of times in my past where I've compared myself to other
people. Most of the time, the people I compare myself to are strangers. Other
times, it would be people who I truly loved.
When someone can do something, I must do it better. I applied this mindset to anything and everything.
I
compare grades, athleticism, social popularity, shoes, money, car, and the list
goes on and on and on.
At
the end of each day, I become more and more insecure. Social media only makes
it worse. It gives people the opportunity to create and manipulate their public
image. People are always living life to the fullest. They eat only at the
finest restaurants. They're always out shopping for new clothes and shoes. They
travel and explore all edges of the Earth. The smiles on their faces are
priceless.
While
I am just living my boring life.
What
I avoided during these times was reality. I failed to come to the realization
that there will always be someone in this world that is more athletic,
intelligent, and popular than me.
I
tried to appreciate the ‘not so finer things in life.’ Because the ‘not so
finer things in life’ may bring a world of joy to other people around the
country.
I
had to drill this realization into my mind.
Instead
of comparing myself to other people, I compared myself to myself. How have I
grown throughout my lifetime? How did I improve myself?
This
comparison was eye opening. I worked harder, not to surpass the person next to
me, but myself.
This
helped me focus on goals that are actually obtainable. Goals that would build
me up rather than break me down.
Thanks for reading.
-Jason